Boys are Silly

Oh, boys. I really meant it when I said you were next.

When the tables are turned and it’s men reacting to new females joining in the guild, I just can’t help but laugh. I know that sounds bad, but hear me out.

So lets say you recruit a female in the guild, you welcome her in and the guys greet her too. Guys reach out to the new guildie wanting to know them. I never really run into an issue with boys being unwelcoming, but it does happen. However, that’s not the case right now. The guys find out the new person is female and it’s like after they find out that bit of information, they jump to their other male friends and start creating a plot.

All of these boys start talking about how are they going to get her into vent. How are they are going to appeal to her and so on. It’s just so funny to watch them from a leader stand point make these desperate attempts to woo the girl. Sometimes they get creative and other times.. well, most times it’s just really pathetic. To me though, it’s funny whatever it is. I guess the concept of the thought process they go through to make themselves appealing to the girl is just so amazing. Some of the ideas are just so crazy. And even more so when they work!

Anyways, enough on that. You can watch my video and listen to my giggling speech about them.

I did want to highlight on something, which came much later in the video and that was addressing the problem. Even though I find boys and their attempts hilarious, it can be a problem. Especially if their attempts make a girl very uncomfortable.

Some of the signs to watch out for would be:

1. Boy constantly bugging girl for attention/activity
2. Girl shying away or avoiding boy
3. Girl getting a bit hostile or uneasy with the attempts
4. Boy remarking about girl to others about her being the catch or flavor of the moment

Those are really basic signs and as a leader, you need to be able to catch when this is going on. Even if you are not completely sure, you need to be watching for it. I don’t want to make it sound like girls need to somehow be protected from boys, but boys can be very headstrong especially on things they want. Sometimes you just need to step in and talk to the parties. When I see it happening, I usually approach the girl and say, ‘Hey, if anyone is bugging you or anything, just let me know and I will put a stop to it’. I also talk to the offending party and let them know they are being a bit too pushy.

When you take the approach like that, you are not only making a statement that you care about the well being of everyone involved, but you are also keeping that line of communication open and that’s so important. Having that as open as much as possible will always curb most of your issues, but that is another statement for a video and blog another time!

Boys just always remember desperation is not sexy.